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05 January 2010

She's Going the Distance

Here we are a few days into 2010 and I’m definitely in the post-holiday slump. Oh wait…I was never on the holiday high, was I? Well that’s okay. I did have a wonderful few days with the Captain (no, not Captain Morgan! We did pay him a visit, though.) here and in Atlanta. The time we spend together goes by way too fast. I definitely live for the moment when we are together. Turn off the phone. Log off the Internet. None of that matters when I know I have a few days with him – and a few days only. I actually left my BB on for the first few hours we were in Atlanta and it just proved to be a huge distraction that I didn’t need.
Most people who read this know that my better half is in the Army. (Maybe some days I’m the better half? Who knows? I digress…) We’ve been together for a year now and we’ve been apart for the vast majority of that year. It has been, by far, the most challenging and most rewarding year of my life. I can say with the utmost certainty that no one has ever made me happier and I have never been so proud of another person in my life. With him, I have found strength that I did not know I possessed. This relationship has definitely changed my perception of who I am, what I want and where I want my life to go. It has really changed my perception of many things and it has been an interesting evolution on my end. I’ve also caught a lot of hell from people who don’t “get it”. Why would I want to put myself through a long-distance relationship? Why would I want to date a Soldier? Really? Why would anyone ask me these things? Can you not ask that of any relationship? Dating a Soldier is tough. Yes. But I wouldn’t trade him for anything in the world. He is worth all of the ups and downs, the uncertainties, the challenges and the lonely days. The pros always outweigh the aforementioned cons. Yes, he is absolutely worth it all.
So now, he goes back to his world in the Pacific and I remain here in (very) chilly Tennessee. I don’t know what this year will bring and there are aspects of the unknown that scare me. I know there will be plenty of loneliness and tears (along with a great deal of love), but better things are on the way. Wonderfully big and better things. This much, I know.
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Anonymous said...

I hate nothing more than when people act like that. Who the hell are they to question you like that? UGH.
I'm glad you got to spend some time together. :)
I hope your 2010 is perfect.

Jupiter Family said...

Happy New Year !!!

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Anonymous said...

I hate the "stupid" questions that people ask you when you date or marry someone in the military. I loved everything you wrote about what he means to you and your life, it was perfect.

Also, thank you for becoming a reader on my blog. =)

Rachael said...

I concur with Ashley and Young Mom/Wife. Almost the first thing anyone says when they hear my bf is in the Air Force is "Oh, that must be so hard!" Well, duh, what relationship isn't hard at times? He likes to come home and play video games and eat cheeseburgers, which I find harder to deal with that the fact that he's in the military. I love my man, military or not. Great insights! Thanks for following!

Anonymous said...

I'm so glad you got to spend some time with him! I know how you feel, too about the stupid questions and comments that people make. I used to let them really bother me until I finally realized that they can't help the fact that they don't understand what you're going through. Up until I dated and got engaged to Jerad, I didn't know ANYTHING about military life. So you just have to smile at the poor little dumb person and just realize they don't know any better ;)

Anonymous said...

I gave you an award on my blog! :)

(army)Wife said...

I never really do understand those questions when people ask. One time someone asked me a variation of the "Isn't it hard?" question and I answered, "YES! There are so many pockets in that damn uniform to clean out! Laundry is such a hassle and I can't tell you how many times I've washed a pen." I got a weird look, but it made me chuckle :)

The Mrs. said...

stupid questions are just that stupid. sometimes I just want to cluck like a chicken or something when they ask one.

hang in there.

Jessa said...

You manage the relationship just like anyone else manages theres; just from thousands of miles away. People tell me they "couldn't do it" and have their boyfriend/fiance/spouse gone for long periods, but those same people also spend an awful lot of time in my opinion complaining about said boyfriend/fiance/spouse.